19 Lessons From 1100 Episodes

Discipline, Motivation, and Obsession

• Discipline, motivation, and obsession are three distinct concepts that are often misunderstood, with discipline being the act of making oneself do something, motivation being the desire to do something, and obsession being the inability to not do something, all of which produce the same outcome but with different internal costs 10s.
• The key difference between discipline, motivation, and obsession lies in their relationship with friction, with discipline accepting friction, motivation reducing friction, and obsession inverting friction, making it a more powerful and permanent source of motivation 2m6s.
• Obsession is a state that cannot be summoned on command, but rather appears when curiosity, identity, reward, and meaning align, and it is a nonrenewable fuel source that should be utilized while it is available, as it can produce disproportionate results in a short window of time 4m42s.
• When obsession is present, it can feel almost unavoidable, and people often mistakenly attribute the output to superhuman discipline, rather than recognizing the power of obsession, which can be destructive if directed towards negative pursuits 6m15s.
• The correct response to a positive obsession is to surrender to it, rather than trying to suppress or balance it, as it is a valuable opportunity to produce significant output without having to rely on willpower or motivation 8m30s.
• Obsession is not a personality trait, but rather a state that can appear and disappear, and it is important to recognize and utilize it when it is present, as it can be a powerful catalyst for productivity and achievement 10m0s.

The Nature and Impact of Obsession

• When someone is obsessed with something positive, it is advisable to let it consume their life and become a part of their identity, rather than trying to balance it, because this obsession can lead to significant progress and the formation of lasting habits and routines 10s.
• Serial obsessives tend to move from one intense project to another, making huge progress while their obsession lasts, and by the time the obsession fades, they have built the necessary patterns, skills, and habits to continue without the initial motivation 2m6s.
• What often appears as discipline in individuals is actually the residue of their past obsessions, which have become ingrained in their identity and routines, allowing them to maintain certain habits and behaviors without much effort 2m6s.
• If someone is currently obsessed with something, they should stop trying to moderate it and instead embrace it, as obsession can be a powerful motivator that can lead to significant accomplishments, and balance can be enjoyed later 10s.
• Most people never experience an obsession that is worth anything, so if someone is lucky enough to have one, they should not waste it and instead allow it to consume their life, at least to a certain extent 10s.
• Having an obsessive personality can be both a blessing and a curse, as it allows individuals to focus intensely on something and make significant progress, but it can also lead to an inability to switch off and move on to other things 10s.
• It is impossible to engineer obsession, but individuals can lay the groundwork for it and create an environment that fosters intense focus and motivation, which can lead to significant accomplishments and personal growth 10s.
• Allowing an obsession to take over one's life can be beneficial if it is pointed towards something good, as it can lead to gaining momentum and identity, and once it's finished, it can become a part of who they are, making them appear disciplined and motivated to others 10s.
• The idea that obsession gets a bad rap is discussed, and it is suggested that if obsession is pointed towards something good, it can be a positive force, but if it's pointed towards something negative, such as politics or pornography, it can be horrible 42s.

The Paradox of Self-Awareness and Inaction

• The paradox of self-awareness is explored, where having a high level of self-awareness can make people hesitant to act, as they are able to think ahead and simulate potential outcomes, including worst-case scenarios, which can lead to inaction and avoidance 2m6s.
• The concept of conscience, as mentioned in Hamlet's "to be or not to be" soliloquy, is discussed, and it is suggested that Shakespeare is pointing to the cost of self-awareness, which is the ability to think ahead and judge oneself, but also to imagine potential failures and hesitate 2m6s.
• It is noted that humans have the ability to simulate futures and experience consequences emotionally in advance, which can lead to hesitation and inaction, as they rehearse potential failures and embarrassments in their minds 4m30s.
• The idea that thought can puzzle the will and drain people's motivation to act is discussed, and it is suggested that this is because thinking can generate more potential outcomes than actions can deal with, leading to a sense of overwhelm and inaction 6m40s.
• The difference between humans and animals is highlighted, where animals act when a threshold is crossed, whereas humans linger and hesitate due to their ability to think and simulate potential outcomes 8m10s.
• The concept that people's intelligence can both protect and inhibit them is discussed, where they can learn quickly from mistakes, but also avoid taking risks due to the fear of potential failures, leading to a life of stagnation and unfulfillment 10m20s.
• The real enemy that people face is not pain or effort, but uncertainty, and this is what often holds them back from taking action, as they would rather endure a familiar misery than gamble on an unfamiliar freedom 10s.
• Self-awareness is not always a good thing, as beyond a certain point, it can actually inhibit agency, and less reflection can sometimes mean more peace and more movement, with courage being about moving while things are still unclear 2m6s.
• The paradox of self-awareness is that the deeper you think, the less you may be able to act, as your mind can generate realities more quickly than you can come up with solutions, leading to a cost-benefit imbalance that can freeze you in place 2m6s.

Omission Errors and the Cost of Inaction

• There are people who think too much and talk themselves out of things, moving more slowly and getting less done in life due to their thought, making fewer mistakes but also missing out on opportunities, which is known as an omission error 4m30s.
• Omission errors occur when people think too much and decide not to take action, such as not speaking to someone they are interested in, and these errors are not always obvious, but can have significant consequences 6m0s.
• The mind's ability to show what could go wrong is often greater than the ability to fix it in reality, leading to omission errors, and people rarely get credit for the things they don't do, and don't pay a cost for the things they don't do 8m0s.

The Pain of Uncertainty and the Fear of Failure

• The pain of not fulfilling one's dreams is often not felt, but the pain of failure is more prevalent in people's minds, holding them back from taking action, and this is why some people avoid taking risks and miss out on opportunities 10m0s.
• Tony Robbins has an audio book that discusses these issues, which was sent by George Max, and it is 30 years old, providing insight into the human mind and behavior 12m0s.
• The concept of frontloading pain is discussed, where an individual is encouraged to consider the costs of their current situation in the past, present, and future, and then imagine the benefits of making a change, using the "pain pleasure principle" to motivate behavior, 10s.

Building Resilience Through Challenge and Growth

• The idea of omission errors is introduced, which refers to the hidden costs of not taking action, such as putting off a desired goal, like becoming a stand-up comedian, and how this can lead to unresolved "what if" questions, 10s.
• The importance of closing loops and taking action to resolve uncertainties is emphasized, even if the outcome is not what was hoped for, as this can bring closure and prevent ongoing "what if" thinking, 2m6s.
• A personal anecdote is shared about starting each day with a cold glass of Element, an electrolyte drink with a science-backed ratio of sodium, potassium, and magnesium, which has helped with reducing muscle cramps, fatigue, and optimizing brain health, 4m30s.
• The benefits of Element are highlighted, including its no sugar, no coloring, and no artificial ingredients, as well as its unlimited refund policy and free shipping in the US, 4m30s.
• The concept of the "dark knight of the soul" is discussed, where difficult times can be transformative, and a quote from Rogan is shared, emphasizing that the worst experiences can also be the most valuable, 8m30s.
• The idea that tough times are only recognized as such in the moment, and that it's only with hindsight that we can see that our worries were often unnecessary, is explored, highlighting the importance of perspective and the fleeting nature of difficulties, 8m30s.
• When looking back, it becomes clear that past problems were manageable, and this realization can be a cause for celebration as it unlocks a new level of workload capacity, indicating that one has the ability to handle more than they previously thought possible 10s.
• Every new challenge overcome reveals a new territory that was previously feared but survived, and breaking new limits teaches individuals that they have the capacity to handle more than they ever did before, which can be seen as a form of inverse PTSD or workload exposure therapy 42s.
• This concept is similar to the idea that if someone has never experienced discomfort or difficulty, they may be more sensitive to it, and the same principle applies psychologically, as people who have not faced many challenges may find it harder to cope when they finally do 1m6s.
• On the other hand, individuals who regularly seek out discomfort or have to push back against it can develop a new level of resilience, as each time they overcome a challenge, they learn that they can handle it, and this teaches their body that they have been in difficult situations before and survived 2m6s.

Overcoming Fear and Embracing New Experiences

• For example, performing in front of a large audience, such as 2,500 people in Sydney, can be a daunting experience, especially when it's a new and intimidating environment, but getting through it can be a significant accomplishment and a new level of workload capacity 3m6s.
• Even when faced with unexpected challenges, such as the sound cutting out halfway through a show, individuals can develop the ability to adapt and overcome, and this experience can be a valuable lesson in building resilience and capacity to handle difficult situations 4m6s.
• James' experience of going on stage before the main performer and doing a segment that put the main performer on the back foot is an example of how different environments and situations can be challenging, but getting through them can be a significant accomplishment 4m42s.
• The idea that the heaviest weight one has ever lifted is the heaviest weight they have ever lifted applies to all areas of life, not just physical challenges, and it emphasizes the importance of pushing oneself beyond their perceived limits to build capacity and resilience 5m6s.
• Breaking a new personal record or overcoming difficult situations can be beneficial as it allows individuals to realize their capacity to endure and survive challenging circumstances, and this can be a valuable gift to their future self 10s.

The Role of Systems and Simplicity in Managing Complexity

• The concept of inverse PTSD and workload exposure therapy can help individuals transform difficult experiences into something positive by recognizing their ability to work hard and endure challenges 10s.
• James Clear's idea that it doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it is an important lesson, as craving the result without being willing to put in the effort will guarantee disappointment 2m6s.
• People often romanticize certain lifestyles, such as being a touring rockstar, without considering the actual process and lifestyle required to achieve that goal, including the dedication, hard work, and sacrifices involved 2m6s.
• Outward complaints are not a good gauge of internal suffering, as someone may be carrying a heavy burden without showing it, and just because someone appears to be handling their challenges well doesn't mean they're not struggling 4m6s.
• The idea that "your life does not need to be easier, it needs to be simpler" is a valuable rule, as individuals are designed to handle stress and challenge, but not complication, and simplifying their lives can help them feel less overwhelmed 6m6s.
• Systems are designed to handle stress and challenge, but not complication, and it is often the complexity of multiple issues that causes feelings of being overwhelmed, rather than the intensity of a single issue 10s.
• To manage feelings of being overwhelmed, it is helpful to reduce complexity by addressing one issue at a time, rather than trying to tackle multiple problems simultaneously, and to prioritize the most pressing issue 2m6s.

The Power of Reflection and Intuition

• Having fewer inputs, rather than more, can be beneficial, as the answers to problems can often be found in silence and stillness, rather than in constant activity and distraction 4m42s.
• It is important to listen to intuition and inner thoughts, rather than pushing them aside in favor of constant work and activity, as this can lead to a disconnection from one's inner self and a lack of clarity about what one wants and needs 6m15s.
• Taking time for reflection and quiet contemplation, such as in the shower, can be a useful way to tap into intuition and find answers to problems 8m30s.

Taking Action and Letting Go of Resentment

• It is not helpful to mourn a life that one can still live, and instead, one should focus on taking action to create the life they want, rather than getting caught up in resentment and sadness about what is not working 11m45s.
• Believing in oneself and one's abilities is crucial, and if things are going well, it is likely a sign that one can trust themselves and their decision-making, and should not let fear and overthinking hold them back from taking action 14m50s.

The Influence of Surrounding People and Attitude

• To improve life, focus on what is liked instead of what is disliked, and surround yourself with people who have a similar mindset, as being around enthusiastic individuals can be uplifting 10s.
• There are typically two categories of friends: those who talk about things that excite them and those who discuss things they dislike, and it is beneficial to spend time with the former 10s.
• Having a positive attitude and being around like-minded people can help offset natural entropy towards grumpiness, and a simple reminder, such as a tattoo that says "smile," can help promote positivity 10s.

Entrepreneurship and E-Commerce Opportunities

• Shopify is a powerful e-commerce platform that powers 10% of all e-commerce companies in the US, and it can help businesses convert browsers into buyers with its 36% better checkout process and Shop Pay feature 2m6s.
• Shopify takes care of the technical aspects of running an online business, allowing entrepreneurs to focus on creating and promoting their products, and it offers a $1 per month trial period 2m6s.

Wealth, Family, and the Concept of Freedom

• The concept of "[ __ ] you money" refers to the amount of wealth that allows individuals to bypass typical restrictions and conventions, giving them a sense of confidence and freedom 4m30s.
• Another type of liberation, "[ __ ] you family," is a more accessible and powerful form of freedom that comes from having a family, as it can change priorities and provide a sense of purpose 5m30s.
• Having a family can provide a sense of liberation and confidence, as seen in fathers who have spoken about how their priorities changed after starting a family, and this concept is being explored as a more affordable and attainable form of freedom 5m30s.
• Having a family can be a powerful liberator, as individuals no longer feel the need to impress others and care less about the opinions of people outside of their family, which can lead to a sense of freedom 10s.
• Many young men engage in surrogate activities until they have a family, and having kids can open up a new level of freedom where they care less about the opinions of others, but this does not mean that all fathers become less ambitious 2m6s.
• The pursuit of freedom is not fully utilized if individuals never express themselves, and having a family can provide a sense of fulfillment that replaces the need for other activities such as bodybuilding, sports, or wealth creation 2m6s.
• The idea that having a family can provide a sense of fulfillment and liberation is not necessarily a hypocritical one, but rather a dream or aspiration that may not be true for everyone, and it is possible that having a family could actually increase drive and ambition 4m0s.

Psychological Strength and Its Consequences

• The concept of psychological strength refers to an individual's ability to cope with emotional pain, upset, or disappointment, and while it can be a good thing, too much psychological strength can be a weakness, particularly for high performers who are often rewarded for their ability to handle stress and pressure 8m0s.
• Psychological strength is not always visible, but it can be detected in an individual's ability to carry a heavy emotional load, and it is not the same as physical strength, which can be measured by weights or other physical metrics 10m0s.
• The ability to ignore feelings and keep moving forward can earn admiration and build careers, but it can also lead to self-abandonment in personal relationships, as individuals may prioritize endurance over attunement and neglect their own needs 10s.
• Relationships require attunement, not endurance, and individuals who are strong and resilient may stay in hurtful relationships longer, rationalizing and reframing the pain as a challenge to be overcome, rather than recognizing it as a warning sign 42s.
• This pattern of behavior can be rooted in childhood experiences, where individuals may have learned to push through disconnection and ignore their own needs in order to make relationships function, leading to a belief that suffering is the price of connection 2m6s.
• As a result, individuals may develop a tendency to prioritize others' needs over their own, becoming accustomed to silent subjugation and believing that their own needs don't matter, which can lead to a pattern of pursuing distant and disconnected partners 4m30s.
• This mindset can become addictive and disorienting, causing individuals to push away people who are easy, ready, and open, and instead pursue those who are challenging and disconnected, in an attempt to prove their worth 6m15s.
• The psychological strength that enables individuals to endure emotional pain can eventually become a trap, obscuring their ability to understand what they do and don't want to tolerate, and leading to a cycle of suffering and self-doubt 8m0s.
• Ultimately, the answer lies not in developing less resilience, but in recognizing and acknowledging emotional limits, and setting boundaries that prioritize one's own needs and well-being, rather than trying to tolerate the intolerable 10m30s.

Monk Mode: Isolation for Self-Improvement

• It's essential for individuals, especially those who are hard-charging, type A, insecure, overachievers, to recognize that taking responsibility and trying to fix relationships is not always the noble or correct approach, and that sometimes, it's necessary to acknowledge and prioritize one's own needs and limits 12m45s.
• Psychological strength can be damaging and destabilizing if it is not turned off in certain situations, as it can lead to staying in destructive relationships or situations for too long, such as the story of Andy Stump, a Navy Seal who stayed in a marriage for a decade longer than he should have 10s.
• The tendency to always try to work through problems and never quit can be a double-edged sword, as it can be beneficial in some areas like the office or gym, but detrimental in personal relationships and friendships, where the capacity to withstand emotional discomfort should be lower 2m6s.
• The idea that one should always push through and never give up can be harmful when applied to personal relationships, as it can lead to taking on too much responsibility and carrying weights that are not one's own to bear, resulting in emotional exhaustion 42s.
• It is essential to consider the domain-specific levels of psychological strength, as what works in one area, such as the gym or office, may not be suitable for personal relationships or friendships, and finding a balance is crucial 2m6s.
• The discussion highlights the importance of being aware of the potential downsides of psychological strength and finding situations where it may not be beneficial to use it, such as in personal relationships, to maintain emotional well-being 10s.
• Monk mode is a self-improvement strategy that involves temporarily retreating from the world to focus on introspection, isolation, and improvement, and it has gained huge popularity over the last few years, especially among men 10s.
• The concept of monk mode was first introduced on the Illimitable Man blog in 2014, where it was described as a temporary form of men going their own way by cutting themselves off from the rest of the world to fine-tune their focus and calibrate their direction 42s.
• Monk mode is a serious commitment that requires minimizing time contribution to social obligations and junk activities, and it can be beneficial and productive, but it can also be addictive and lead to a struggle to reintegrate into society 2m6s.
• The original blog post describes monk mode as a way to acknowledge weaknesses, formulate a plan of action to deal with them, and yield little to negligible increases toward social market value, but it also warns that it can become an addictive lifestyle 2m6s.
• Personal experiences with monk mode have shown great success, including cutting out alcohol for 2,000 days, doing 500 days without caffeine, and completing over 2,000 sessions of meditation, but it also highlights the risk of becoming too isolated and sheltered 4m0s.
• The dark side of monk mode is that it can justify a retreat from life, risk-taking, and adventure, and repackages it as self-development, making it hard to bring oneself back out and reintegrate into society 6m0s.
• Monk mode can be particularly problematic for people who already have a tendency to live a sheltered, routinized, and unsocial life, as it can encourage them to abscond further away from building a real life support network 8m0s.
• The reason for doing monk mode is to reintegrate into society and be effective, but the addicting nature of it can lead people to never reintegrate, and instead spend their lives focused on isolation, introspection, and improvement 10m0s.

The Challenges of Reintegration and Balance

• Bill Perkins' quote, "Delayed gratification in the extreme results in no gratification," highlights the importance of finding a balance between personal growth and public performance, and the solution is to periodize and set a deadline for monk mode to end 12m0s.
• A period of three to six months is considered a good duration for isolation, introspection, and improvement, although this can vary depending on individual circumstances 10s.
• The process of integration, which involves bringing learned experiences back into public life, is a crucial but often overlooked aspect of personal development, and can be challenging to achieve 42s.
• Isolation can be beneficial for personal growth, but it can also exaggerate existing predispositions and imbalances, rather than correcting them, especially for individuals who already tend to spend time alone 1m6s.
• The concept of "monk mode" is often discussed in a way that neglects the difficulties of reintegration, which is a less appealing but important topic to address 2m6s.
• Personal development strategies, such as psychological strength and self-awareness, are often presented in a way that ignores potential side effects and challenges, which can be misleading and unhelpful 3m10s.

Sex Differences and Relationship Dynamics

• Research on sex differences has revealed interesting findings, including a study that shows men in platonic relationships are more likely to find their female friends attractive and assume the feeling is mutual 6m40s.
• Men's assessment of how much their female friends fancy them matches how much they fancy their female friends, and this is unrelated to how the women actually feel, with nearly half of male friends trying to sleep with their female friends 10s.
• Research by William Costello found that 81% of women believe opposite-sex friendships can be truly platonic, while only 58% of men agree, indicating that women are three times more likely than men to consider their friendships as purely platonic 42s.
• A double standard exists over infidelity, with both men and women judging men more harshly for having an affair, and women judging both men and women more harshly, with 61% of men and 70% of women saying it's always morally wrong for a married man to have an affair 2m6s.
• Romantic relationships matter more to men than to women, contrary to common stereotypes, with men striving harder to establish relationships, falling in love faster, and benefiting more from relationships, according to research by Steve Stewart Williams 4m30s.
• Men depend more on their relationships for social support, are less likely to initiate breakups, and suffer more in the wake of a breakup, which may be due to the fact that men often lack social support structures outside of their relationship and rely on their partner's support network 6m0s.
• The difference in how men and women approach relationships may be due to evolutionary factors, with men needing to work harder to establish relationships because women have more choices, and men struggling more to find a replacement partner 8m0s.
• Men and women have different expectations and needs in relationships, with men often relying more on the relationship for social support, and this dynamic can be observed when looking at it from an ancestral perspective 10s.

Sex Frequency and Relationship Expectations

• Married men and women tend to disagree on the ideal frequency of sex, with women generally satisfied with the current frequency, while men desire twice as much, resulting in couples often adjusting to the lower rate preferred by the woman 42s.
• This disparity in desired sex frequency can lead to men sacrificing up to 50% of the sex they want, and it would be interesting to explore whether women might want even less sex but are hesitant to express this due to potential judgment 2m6s.
• As people age, particularly in their 30s, their ability to recover from physical training changes, with mitochondria, the energy producers in muscle cells, weakening over time, which can impact strength gains and overall performance 4m30s.

Polyamory and Its Challenges

• Mitoure from Timeline is a supplement that contains a clinically validated form of urethylene A, which promotes mitochondrial function and muscle strength in older adults by supporting the natural process of clearing out damaged mitochondria 5m40s.
• Polyamory is a topic where many people overestimate their ability to handle it, with only about 5% of individuals being genuinely suited for it due to their high emotional intelligence and communication skills, while the remaining 95% may struggle with insatiable desires and unrealistic expectations 7m30s.
• The concept of polyamory is often associated with a small percentage of people who can handle it, while the majority may not be suited for it, but they try to justify their actions by comparing themselves to those who are successful in polyamory 10s.

The Concept of the True Self

• The idea of finding one's true self is a common theme, with the underlying assumption that there is a fundamentally good version of oneself hidden beneath the surface, and that becoming one's true self is a process of discovery, as seen in examples such as an alcoholic getting sober or a person like Nelson Mandela forgiving his captors 2m6s.
• The notion of a true self is often tied to the idea of goodness being authenticity, while badness is seen as a mask, and this bias is reflected in language and is supported by psychological studies that show people tend to identify morally positive changes as revealing someone's true self 4m30s.
• A study about a man named Mark, who had conflicting beliefs and feelings, found that people's perceptions of his true self were influenced by their own moral compass, with liberals and conservatives each seeing a different side of Mark as his authentic self 6m40s.
• The study suggests that authenticity is not something that can be found inside others, but rather it is something that is projected onto them by external observers, and that conflict is necessary for this projection to occur, as it provides a basis for judgment 10m20s.
• The tendency to see oneself and others as moral and authentic has consequences, such as making it easier to bounce back from mistakes by dismissing them as not being a true reflection of oneself 14m10s.
• The belief that goodness is the truth and badness is a mask can be problematic as it creates an asymmetry where individuals forgive themselves quickly while judging others more harshly, and it skews the sense of authenticity by treating virtuous impulses as real and darker ones as intrusions 10s.
• This belief also fuels a lifelong quest to uncover the good self, and it is applied unevenly, with allies' virtues being seen as authentic and their failures as superficial, while opponents' good deeds are dismissed as fake and their mistakes as proof of their true character 42s.
• The double standard of treating one's own side's goodness as essence and the other side's goodness as performance, while treating one's own side's failings as masks and the other side's failings as revelations, is a rule about group loyalty rather than human nature 2m6s.
• The idea that the true self may not exist, and that individuals are nothing but a bundle of drives, beliefs, and feelings that show up in the moment, is a disconcerting concept that challenges the notion of discovering one's true self, with examples such as the addict being himself when he drinks and when he doesn't, and Scrooge being authentically Scrooge as a miser and as a benefactor 2m6s.
• The fiction of the true self makes forgiveness possible, but it also blinds individuals to cruelty and shortcomings, and allows them to keep loving people even at their worst, while underestimating their malice, as seen in the common phrase "that's not who she is" when a friend lashes out in anger, but never saying that when they show generosity 4m30s.

The Fiction of the True Self and Its Implications

• The concept of the true self is often reinforced by childhood stories, therapists, and daily life, where the happy ending is framed as the revelation of what was hidden all along, and it's almost unthinkable to frame it the other way, with the depressed version being the truest one, highlighting the superstition that the true self is something to be discovered rather than invented 6m15s.
• The hypothesis that there may be no real self, and that the true self is something that is invented, is a philosophical idea that is clung to because it makes forgiveness easier, love sustainable, and cruelty bearable, and it's a concept that was explored after going through criticism and realizing that the exact opposite opinion would occur if saying something different 8m30s.

The Double Standard in Criticism and Perspective

• When someone is criticized for commenting on a particular topic, such as the environment, it is often because their opinion disagrees with the critic's point of view, rather than because they are not allowed to speak about the topic, and this double standard can be seen in various discussions 10s.
• People tend to only accept criticism from those who share their perspective, and if someone from the opposing side tries to offer support, it is often welcomed, but if they criticize, they are told to stay out of the conversation, creating an asymmetry in how opinions are received 42s.
• This phenomenon can be observed in topics such as women's bodies and access to birth control, where men who support access to birth control might be welcomed by women who otherwise might not want men to comment on the issue, highlighting the importance of considering multiple perspectives to achieve widespread support 2m6s.
• Ultimately, if only supportive voices from the opposing side are accepted, while critical voices are rejected, it can be challenging to build a consensus or create meaningful discussions, and it is essential to appreciate the value of diverse perspectives and opinions 2m6s.