The science of habit: How to rewire the loop running 40% of your day | Charles Duhigg

Introduction to Habits and the Habit Loop

• The discussion begins with an introduction to the topic of habits and how to change them, as well as the importance of understanding habits in order to gain power over changing them and making them better 10s.
• The concept of the habit loop is introduced, which consists of three components: a cue, a routine, and a reward, and this loop is responsible for almost half of what people do every day 2m6s.
• The brain has a part known as the basil ganglia that exists to create habits, and every animal on Earth has a basil ganglia, which is necessary because if decisions had to be made every single time for every action, it would be overwhelming and nothing would be accomplished 2m6s.
• About 40 to 45% of what people do every day is a habit, and these habits shape everything from what people eat to what they spend to how they treat others and what they do at work, and this is because the brain is designed to create habits wherever it can 2m6s.
• The habit loop works by the brain looking for a pattern of a cue, a routine, and a reward, and once this pattern is established, the brain can automate the behavior, allowing people to perform tasks without consciously thinking about them 2m6s.

The Role of the Brain in Creating Habits

• Understanding how habits work and how to change them is important because it can help people create the behaviors they want and connect with others more effectively, and advances in neural imaging and data collection have provided a huge amount of knowledge on this topic in the last couple of decades 10s.
• The brain creates habits by making behaviors automatic when it sees a frequent cue and reward, allowing people to take control of their habits by recognizing and modifying these cues and rewards 10s.
• Habits are not a matter of discipline or character, but rather a mechanical function that happens inside the brain, where the brain does not distinguish between good and bad habits, and it is up to the individual to decide whether a habit is good or bad 1m42s.
• When a behavior becomes a habit, it happens almost without willpower, and people can use willpower to push themselves to do amazing things, but the goal is to make the behavior a habit so that it becomes automatic 2m6s.

Common Mistakes in Changing Habits

• There are two basic mistakes people make when trying to get rid of a bad habit: trying to extinguish it, which can work for a little while but may lead to reverting back to the old habit in moments of weakness, and focusing on the behavior instead of the cue and reward 4m10s.
• To change a habit, people need to take advantage of the old cue and reward and insert a new behavior into the habit loop, rather than trying to extinguish the habit 5m30s.

Identifying Cues and Rewards in Habits

• Cues that shape habits usually fall into one of five categories: a time of day, a particular place, the presence of certain other people, an emotion, or a preceding behavior that has become ritualized, which can help people diagnose and modify their habits 8m40s.
• To change a habit, it is necessary to figure out the cue by writing down five things whenever a craving hits, including the time of day, current emotions, people around, and location, to identify a pattern and notice what remains consistent day-to-day 10s.
• Rewards are also crucial to understand, and they can be tricky to unpack, as they are like little packages, so when having a craving for something like a cigarette or a donut, it is essential to determine if the reward is the taste, the sense of indulgence, or something else 42s.
• Experimenting with different rewards can help figure out which one is driving the habit, as seen in the example of a bad habit of eating a cookie every afternoon, where writing down the five things whenever the craving struck helped identify the cue as the time of day, specifically 3:30 in the afternoon 2m6s.
• To understand the reward, it is necessary to test hypotheses, such as whether the reward is about getting energy from sugar or taking a break from work, and experiment with different rewards, like getting a cup of coffee or using Splenda, to see if the craving goes away 2m6s.
• By experimenting with different rewards, it is possible to unpack the bundle of rewards tied together and identify the actual reward driving the habit, which can help in changing the habit 2m6s.

The Process of Changing Habits

• The process of identifying and changing habits involves understanding the cue, routine, and reward associated with a particular behavior, and by doing so, it is possible to replace an old habit with a new one that delivers a similar reward, 10s.
• A craving is a neurological signature that emerges in the brain when a certain cue is seen and a specific reward is expected, often occurring outside of consciousness, and it is driven by the anticipation of a reward, 10s.
• The golden rule of habit change states that it is difficult to extinguish a habit, but rather than trying to eliminate it, it is more effective to change the habit by paying attention to the cues and rewards and finding a new behavior that corresponds to the old cue and delivers a similar reward, 2m6s.
• The habit loop is driven by cravings, and when a craving is not satisfied, it can lead to feelings of disappointment and frustration, which can make the behavior worse, and understanding the cravings that drive habits is essential to cultivating new ones, 2m6s.
• Implementation intentions, such as standing up from the desk at 3:30 in the afternoon to gossip with someone, can be an effective way to change a habit by replacing the old routine with a new one that delivers a similar reward, 2m6s.
• By identifying the cues and rewards associated with a habit, it is possible to replace the old habit with a new one that is more desirable, and this approach can lead to long-lasting changes, 2m6s.

Creating New Habits with Obvious Cues and Immediate Rewards

• To create a new habit, it is essential to choose an obvious cue, such as laying out running clothes the night before or planning to meet a friend at the gym, and then reward yourself immediately after the activity, which helps the brain associate the behavior with a positive outcome 10s.
• Research shows that rewarding yourself right away with something enjoyable can make the behavior easier and more enjoyable, whereas punishing yourself for exercising, such as by rushing and feeling stressed, can make the brain associate the behavior with negative outcomes 42s.

The Concept of Keystone Habits

• Cravings are not a representation of who we are, but rather a result of the cues and rewards that we surround ourselves with, and by identifying and changing these cues and rewards, we can build new habits and change our behavior 2m6s.
• Some habits, known as Keystone Habits, are more powerful than others and can set off a chain reaction that changes other patterns in our lives, such as going for a run in the morning making it easier to eat a healthy lunch 4m6s.
• By cultivating the right cravings, rewards, and cues, we can make a behavior stick and create positive changes in our lives, and we have the power to build new habits, change our environment, and find healthier ways to deliver the rewards we seek 3m40s.
• Genetic predispositions can play a role in certain cravings, such as alcoholism, but they are not the sole determining factor, and many people are able to overcome these predispositions and change their behavior 3m10s.
• Keystone habits are a type of habit that can set off a chain reaction, leading to changes in other habits, and they are different for different people, often related to how an individual perceives themselves 10s.
• When a person adopts a new keystone habit, such as exercising, it can change their self-image and lead to other positive changes, like eating healthier, using credit cards less, procrastinating less, and sleeping better, as found by researchers Otton and Chang in Australia 42s.
• Keystone habits have the power to change how people see themselves, particularly in the part of the brain that determines identity based on behavior, rather than logic or arguments, and this can lead to a range of positive outcomes 2m6s.
• To identify a keystone habit, an individual can ask themselves what kind of change seems irrationally scary to them, as this can indicate a habit that has the potential to update their self-image and lead to other positive changes 4m30s.
• Exercising can be a keystone habit for people who have not previously exercised, as it can be intimidating and require a change in self-image, but adopting this habit can lead to a range of other positive changes, such as reduced spending and improved time management 6m15s.
• By identifying and changing a keystone habit, an individual can cause a ripple effect, leading to changes in other areas of their life, and this can be a powerful tool for personal growth and development 8m20s.

The Role of Belief in Changing Habits

• Keystone habits can be identified by looking for changes that seem irrationally scary, and leaning into those changes can have a significant impact on one's life, as it takes some willpower and effort at first, but eventually, the brain starts to believe in one's ability to make those changes 10s.
• Changing one keystone habit can have a ripple effect and make other parts of life easier and better, and it is not necessary to change everything at once, but rather to focus on one meaningful change that seems scary or significant 42s.
• To change a habit, it is essential to believe that change is possible, and there is a stage in every habit change where one just has to have faith that it will work, and practicing belief is crucial, just like exercising a muscle 2m6s.
• The 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous provide a useful example of how to practice belief and change habits, as some steps help individuals become aware of the cues that trigger their habits, while others help them understand the rewards they seek, and some steps ask individuals to believe in a higher power 2m6s.
• The process of changing habits involves becoming aware of the patterns and cues that trigger certain behaviors, and understanding the rewards that those behaviors provide, as seen in the example of Alcoholics Anonymous, where individuals are asked to make amends and figure out why they seek out certain behaviors 2m6s.
• Believing in a higher power, which can be God, nature, or any other force, is essential to make changes in life, and practicing this belief can help individuals avoid unhealthy habits, such as drinking, by giving them the strength to resist temptation 10s.
• The practice of believing in a higher power becomes easier when done in a community, such as AA, where individuals can see evidence of others who have made similar changes, and this collective belief can convince them that they too can change 42s.
• Being part of a community, such as a support group or a religious gathering, makes it easier to practice belief and to see the evidence of change in others, which in turn strengthens one's own belief in their ability to change 2m6s.
• Social expectations and accountability also play a significant role in facilitating change, as individuals are more likely to show up to the gym or stick to their goals when they know someone is counting on them, and this sense of responsibility can be a powerful motivator 4m10s.
• Change is a complex and mysterious process, but it is often accompanied by the development of new beliefs about oneself, and being part of a community that believes in and supports these new beliefs can make it easier to achieve lasting change 6m20s.
• Ultimately, believing in one's ability to change is a crucial step towards making positive changes in life, and this belief can be strengthened by practicing it in a community, being held accountable by others, and seeing evidence of change in those around them 8m30s.

The Importance of Social Support in Habit Change

• When trying to change a habit, it is helpful to have other people who can encourage and support you, as their belief in you can be just as powerful as believing in yourself, especially during moments of weakness 10s.
• To change a habit, one should create a small plan, identifying the cues that trigger the habit and the rewards it provides, and also write out why they believe the change is possible 2m6s.
• Becoming a supercommunicator, someone who can connect with almost anyone through conversation, requires recognizing and practicing certain skills until they become habits, and everyone has moments where they are supercommunicators, but some people can do this consistently 4m42s.

Introduction to Supercommunicators and Effective Communication

• The skills of a supercommunicator include being able to empathize with others and explain ideas in a way that is clear and understandable, and people who are consistent supercommunicators are able to connect with anyone at any time 5m42s.
• Even professional communicators can struggle with communication, and recognizing the importance of empathy and clear explanation is key to improving communication skills, as seen in the example of a manager who realized they were terrible at communication despite being a professional communicator 3m30s.
• People can become super communicators by understanding the skills required to have effective conversations with others, which can open up new ways to connect with people 10s.
• There are three main types of conversations: practical conversations, which aim to solve problems or make decisions, emotional conversations, which require empathy and understanding, and social conversations, which involve relating to each other and society 42s.
• In practical conversations, the goal is to answer a question or come to a resolution, whereas in emotional conversations, the goal is to empathize and acknowledge the other person's feelings 1m6s.
• Social conversations are about how people relate to each other and society, and involve acknowledging and validating each other's perspectives, even if they differ 1m42s.

Types of Conversations and the Matching Principle

• These three types of conversations are equally important and often occur together in a discussion, but if the people involved are in different mindsets, it can lead to misunderstandings 2m6s.
• When people are having a great conversation, their bodily functions, such as heart rate and breath patterns, start to match each other, and their thoughts become more aligned, which can even be seen on a graph 2m54s.
• To have effective conversations, it's essential to understand what type of conversation the other person wants to have and to adjust accordingly, which can lead to a deeper sense of connection and understanding 3m30s.
• Neural entrainment is the act of thinking in a simultaneous manner with the person being spoken to, and it is the goal of communication, allowing individuals to connect and feel aligned with each other, even if they disagree on certain topics 10s.
• When individuals are in neural entrainment, they are more likely to trust and like each other, and be persuaded by each other, which is essential for cooperation and building a functioning society 42s.
• The matching principle in psychology states that successful communication requires having the same kind of conversation at the same time, and conversations can be categorized into practical, emotional, and social conversations 2m6s.
• To determine the type of conversation, individuals can use skills such as asking questions and listening to the words being used, as the words can reveal the person's mindset, even if the topic being discussed is practical 2m6s.
• If an individual is using emotional words, such as expressing anxiety or worry, it is a clue that they need to have an emotional conversation, and acknowledging and matching their emotions can help them feel calmer and more trusting 4m30s.
• Once emotions are acknowledged, individuals can transition to a practical conversation, allowing them to align and have the same kind of conversation at the same time, fulfilling the premise of the matching principle 6m40s.
• The matching principle is essential for effective communication, as it allows individuals to really hear each other and work together to find solutions to problems 8m10s.

Practical Conversations and the Quiet Negotiation

• The practical conversation, also known as the "what's this really about" conversation, is a process where two people figure out why they are talking to each other, and it often occurs at the beginning of a conversation, with the goal of understanding what the other person wants 10s.
• This process is referred to as a "quiet negotiation" by social scientists, where the goal is to understand the other person's needs, rather than competing against each other, and it involves asking questions to determine the other person's emotional or practical mindset 42s.
• At the start of a conversation, people often ask questions like "Hey, how are you doing today?" to understand what's on the other person's mind, and the response can indicate whether they are in an emotional or practical mindset, and this conversation can be prompted by asking the right questions 1m6s.
• Researchers have found that asking questions like "Do you want to be helped, hugged, or heard?" can be effective in determining the purpose of the conversation, especially in personal relationships, such as with children, but may not be suitable for professional environments 2m6s.
• In professional settings, asking different types of questions is necessary, and not all questions are created equal, with "shallow questions" focusing on everyday topics and "deep questions" exploring values, beliefs, or experiences, which can be as simple as asking someone about their profession or interests 4m6s.

Deep Questions and Effective Communication

• Deep questions can help to understand the other person's values or beliefs, and can be asked in a non-intimidating way, such as asking someone about their job or hobbies, to determine the purpose of the conversation and build a connection 5m6s.
• To have a meaningful conversation, it's essential to ask deep questions that invite the other person to share their values, beliefs, and experiences, rather than just asking superficial questions, and this can be achieved by inquiring about someone's motivations or decisions, such as what made them decide to go to medical school 10s.
• The brain processes information in two different ways, with the prefrontal cortex being attracted to data, logic, and evidence, while the deeper structures of the brain are more persuaded by emotion and storytelling, and recognizing this difference is crucial for effective communication 2m6s.
• When trying to persuade someone, it's important to pay attention to whether they are more swayed by logic and arguments or by storytelling and emotion, and to use this knowledge to connect with them more effectively, as people's decision-making processes can be influenced by either logic or emotion 2m6s.
• Asking deep questions is simpler than it seems, and it involves inquiring about someone's values, beliefs, or experiences, such as asking why they care about something or how they make sense of the world, and this can be done by asking questions like what someone values or likes about a particular place 2m6s.
• Deep questions can be asked in a variety of ways, such as inquiring about someone's values or experiences, and this can be as simple as asking why someone likes a particular neighborhood, such as the Heights, and what they value about it, such as the views or the sense of community 2m6s.

Emotional Conversations and Empathy

• When asking someone about their experiences, it is possible to gain insight into their values and beliefs by inquiring about their past and the decisions that led them to become the person they are today, such as asking what made them decide to go to medical school 10s.
• Beliefs can be understood by asking simple questions that prompt the person to share their perspective on the world, like asking an accountant if they enjoy their job and why they became an accountant, which can reveal their values and priorities 42s.
• Almost any question can become a deep question by asking for the reasons behind someone's decisions or actions, such as asking why they moved to a certain place or what they like about their job, which shows curiosity and a desire to understand the person 1m26s.
• Most conversations are emotional, but people are often bad at recognizing when an emotional conversation is occurring, and it is essential to acknowledge and discuss the emotional aspects before moving on to practical considerations 2m6s.
• Emotional conversations can be initiated by using language that indicates how someone feels about a particular topic, and deep questions can help unearth emotions that might not be voiced otherwise, as seen in the example of Dr. Bfara Dy, a surgeon who uses deep questions to understand his patients' emotional state after being diagnosed with prostate cancer 2m54s.
• A doctor's advice to patients with prostate cancer was to do nothing and instead opt for active surveillance, which involves regular blood tests and biopsies to monitor the tumor's growth, but many patients would initially agree with this approach only to later request immediate surgery, despite the potential for lifelong side effects 10s.
• The doctor, Dr. D, found it bewildering that his patients were ignoring his advice, but he eventually realized that the patients were not in a practical mindset and therefore could not hear his advice, leading him to change his approach to talking to patients 2m6s.
• Dr. D started asking patients about the emotional impact of their diagnosis, and in the case of a 65-year-old man, this led to a conversation about the patient's fears and concerns, which were rooted in his personal experiences and family history, rather than the cancer itself 4m30s.
• By listening to the patient's emotional concerns and sharing his own personal experiences, Dr. D was able to establish a connection with the patient and eventually transition to a practical conversation about treatment options, including active surveillance, which the patient ultimately agreed to 6m40s.
• The key to Dr. D's new approach was to match the patient's emotional mindset and show empathy, rather than simply providing practical advice, and this allowed him to have more effective conversations with his patients and help them make informed decisions about their treatment 8m50s.
• Making a simple change, such as asking a deep question at the beginning of conversations, can significantly increase the effectiveness of interactions, as seen in Dr. D's experience where the number of patients following his advice increased by 70% after implementing this change 10s.
• When individuals recognize and empathize with each other's emotions, they are more likely to listen and understand each other better, and what they want from an emotional conversation is not a solution or validation, but rather empathy and to know that they are being heard 42s.

Understanding and Responding to Emotional States

• Vulnerability is often misunderstood as crying or sharing personal stories, but it actually refers to a neural cascade that occurs when someone shares something that could be judged, and reciprocal vulnerability can create a sense of closeness and trust when both parties share something vulnerable and withhold judgment 2m6s.
• Reciprocal vulnerability can be achieved by sharing something personal and paying attention to the other person's response, and if they withhold judgment and share something vulnerable in return, it can create a sense of closeness and trust, even if the individuals disagree on certain topics 2m6s.
• Recognizing when an emotional conversation is happening can be challenging, especially in professional or logical settings, and it requires looking at the conversation dynamics and being aware of the emotional undertones to create a connection and overcome differences of opinion 2m6s.
• To understand someone's emotions, it is possible to look at the words they use, such as "I feel like this" or "I'm worried about that", which can indicate anxiety, and also observe their body language, including nonverbal and nonvocal communication like gestures and sounds, to figure out their emotional state 10s.
• When someone is feeling emotional, it tends to be portrayed in their nonverbal communication, and by training oneself to look for these signals, it is possible to determine what someone is feeling, even if their words do not reveal it, for example, if someone is frowning, they are likely not feeling good or safe 42s.
• In addition to determining whether someone is feeling positive or negative, it is also important to figure out if they are feeling high energy or low energy, as this can impact how to communicate with them, such as matching their energy level to show understanding and empathy 2m6s.
• If someone is feeling a negative emotion with high energy, such as anger, it is necessary to match that energy to some extent in order to communicate effectively, whereas if someone is feeling a negative emotion with low energy, such as depression or being morose, it is necessary to match their low energy level to show empathy 2m6s.

Conflict Resolution and Listening Techniques

• In conflicts, most people want to resolve the issue, but often get in their own way and cannot come to an agreement, and research has looked at conflict conversations to understand how to effectively resolve disagreements 4m6s.
• To resolve conflicts, it is essential to match the other person's energy level and emotional state, which can help them feel listened to and understood, and create a sense of connection, allowing for more effective communication and conflict resolution 4m6s.
• In moments of conflict conversations, two important things to consider are asking more questions and proving that you are listening to the other person, as this helps to understand their perspective and makes them more likely to understand yours 10s.
• A technique for effective listening is called "looping for understanding", which involves three steps: asking a question, preferably a deep one, to show curiosity and encourage the other person to share their thoughts; repeating back what you heard the other person say in your own words to prove you are listening and add something to their statement; and asking if you got it right to ensure understanding and show you value their perspective 2m6s.

Social Conversations and Identity

• The "who are we" conversation, or social conversation, arises when discussing how individuals see themselves in the world, often involving identity-related topics such as political affiliation, personal experiences, or social roles, and in these conversations, acknowledgement of the other person's identity and expertise is crucial, rather than empathy or problem-solving 42s.
• Social conversations can be identified when people talk about their own identities, announce their identity, or discuss other people's identities, and it is essential to recognize these cues to respond appropriately and show acknowledgement of the other person's perspective 10s.
• Looping for understanding is a technique that can make any conversation better by proving to the other person that you are listening to them and processing what they are saying, which is particularly powerful in social conversations 10s.
• In social conversations, people often share their experiences and identities, and it is essential to acknowledge and understand these aspects to build a connection with the other person, as seen in the example of a gun owner discussing their experiences with guns 2m6s.
• When engaging in conversations about sensitive topics, such as gun control, it is crucial to start by acknowledging the other person's identity and experiences, and then share your own, to create a safe and respectful environment for discussion 4m30s.
• Even when people disagree on certain issues, sharing their identities and experiences can help them understand each other's perspectives and find common ground, as long as each person feels heard and acknowledged 6m40s.
• In conversations about race, people often feel uncomfortable and worried about saying the wrong thing, but asking questions and seeking to understand the other person's experiences and identity can help to build a connection and create a more open and respectful dialogue 10m30s.
• By acknowledging and respecting each other's identities and experiences, people can build relationships and find areas of agreement, even in the face of disagreement, and this technique can be applied to various social conversations 12m10s.

Building Confidence and Comfort in Social Conversations

• Acknowledging someone's identity by asking a question, such as "Do you think you see this issue differently than I see it?" can help understand their perspective and validate their experiences 10s.
• By recognizing that each person is an expert on their own experiences, individuals can share their unique viewpoints and feel heard, which can lead to more meaningful conversations 42s.
• An experiment at Harvard Business School found that when people were asked to write down three topics they might discuss before having a conversation with a stranger, the conversations went better than expected, even if the pre-planned topics were not brought up, as it gave them a sense of confidence and a fallback plan 2m6s.
• The best communicators often have a mental list of questions and topics they enjoy discussing, which can help them feel more confident in social conversations and provide a sense of security 2m6s.
• In social conversations, it is acceptable to decline discussing certain topics or sharing personal information, and asking questions can be an effective way to invite someone to share their thoughts and experiences without feeling pressured 2m6s.

The Role of Environment in Communication

• Effective communication involves paying attention to the signals the other person is giving and being aware of the physical surroundings that impact conversations, such as body language and the environment, which can make it easier to have vulnerable and real discussions when not face to face 10s.
• The location and setting of a conversation can greatly influence its outcome, and some conversations are better suited for certain environments, such as a car ride or email, rather than in person, and the best communicators are aware of the strengths and weaknesses of different channels of communication 2m6s.
• Understanding the salience of the environment is crucial, as it can affect how people perceive and react to certain cues, such as wearing an Obama shirt at an NRA convention, and being aware of this can help individuals navigate social situations and conversations more effectively 42s.
• Successful communication is not about having special skills, but rather about paying attention to how communication works and being mindful of the environment and the identities that are being presented, and recognizing that people have multiple identities beyond a single trait or characteristic 10s.

Developing Communication Skills and Mindset

• The ability to communicate effectively is not innate, but rather it can be developed by thinking more about how and when to communicate, and being aware of the complexities of social conversations and the various identities that are involved 2m6s.
• The key to a successful conversation is not to focus on one identity, but to invite people to share all of their identities, allowing for a more nuanced understanding of each other's perspectives 10s.
• Effective communication is a crucial aspect of human connection, and it is the thing that has allowed the species to be successful, enabling people to feel connected and trust each other, which is essential for building communities and forming governments 2m6s.

The Historical and Social Impact of Communication

• The best communicators are not born with the gift of gab, but rather they become skilled at communication by spending time thinking about how their words impact others and trying to understand different perspectives, with the goal of feeling connected to each other, not necessarily agreeing with each other 2m6s.
• Historical events, such as the constitutional convention, demonstrate that productive disagreement and effective communication can lead to significant accomplishments, as the founding fathers were able to argue and listen to each other in a way that allowed them to create a constitution that is still in use today 4m38s.
• Super communicators often develop their skills through experience and practice, such as studying how others interact or serving as a peacemaker in difficult situations, and they understand that the goal of conversation is to feel connected to each other, rather than to agree on everything 5m21s.
• When people feel like they are being genuinely listened to and understood, they are more likely to feel connected to each other, which can lead to positive outcomes, such as the formation of meaningful relationships or the creation of significant documents like the American Constitution 6m34s.

The Importance of Connection and Relationships

• The Harvard study of adult development, originally known as the Grant Study, is one of the most famous and longest studies in existence, having been conducted for over a hundred years, and it aims to identify the factors that contribute to people living longer, healthier, and happier lives 10s.
• Researchers initially believed that factors such as attending a good school, having a stable home life, and eating healthily as a child were key to long-term happiness, health, and success, but they found that none of these variables were significant, and instead, having at least one close relationship at age 45 was a common trait among the healthiest, happiest, and most successful people 2m6s.
• Feeling connected to other people is the single greatest determinant of happiness, health, and success, and it also has a significant impact on longevity, with the surgeon general of the United States comparing loneliness to smoking 15 cigarettes a day 4m6s.
• Connecting with others through conversation is essential for building and maintaining relationships, and it can be achieved by practicing basic skills such as asking deep questions, actively listening, and being curious about others, which can become habits over time 6m3s.

Conclusion and Call to Action

• Having conversations with others can help people feel closer and more connected, even if they have not spoken in a long time, and it can be as simple as picking up the phone and calling someone to start a conversation, which can lead to a deeper and more meaningful connection 8m5s.
• Becoming a skilled communicator is not about being born with certain skills, but rather about thinking more deeply about conversation and communication, practicing basic skills, and making them a habit, which can enable people to connect with anyone 10m3s.
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