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How to Know What You Truly Want in Life

Ali Abdaal
2 min summary

Key points

  • The video starts by framing self-knowledge as understanding where you are now, where you want to go, and how to get there.
  • It suggests writing down what is working and what is not working in your work and life to gain clarity.
  • The Wheel of Life exercise asks you to rate 10 areas of life from 0 to 10 and then focus on the areas you want to improve.
  • The truths exercise asks you to list 10 things that are true about yourself right now, using positive statements to recognize progress and accomplishments.
  • The video warns against mimetic desire and encourages you to look inward instead of wanting things because other people want them.
  • It recommends reviewing fulfillment stories and a two-week energy audit to identify activities that align with your values and give you energy.

Introduction 0s

  • To understand what you truly want in life, it's important to know where you are right now.
  • Imagine being lost in a forest and needing to find your way.
  • To do this, you need to know where you're going, where you are, and how to get from where you are to where you want to be.
  • This video will help you figure out where you are right now and look back at your past and present to understand what you truly want.
  • Don't get discouraged by the big questions; approach them as an adventure.
  • Give it a go and write down your thoughts to gain clarity.

Where We Are Right Now 1m35s

  • Consider what's working and what's not working in your work and life.
  • Write down your answers to gain clarity.
  • Reflect on the example provided about work and life.

Wheel of Life 3m57s

  • The Wheel of Life exercise helps assess where you are in life.
  • It involves rating 10 different areas of life on a scale of 0 to 10 based on alignment or satisfaction.
  • The areas include work, health, relationships, and joy.
  • Go through the categories and rate yourself.
  • Identify areas you want to work on.
  • Don't be too pessimistic; look for positive evidence and focus on marginal improvements.
  • Taking action and making progress can significantly boost motivation.

Truths Exercise 10m9s

  • List 10 things that you know are true about yourself right now.
  • These truths can be about anything (life, business, appearance, hobbies, etc.).
  • Make sure to focus on positive statements and avoid negative ones.
  • This exercise helps you recognize your progress and accomplishments.

How To Actually Know What You Want 12m8s

  • Avoid mimetic desire, which is the tendency to want things based on what others want.
  • Instead, focus on your own internal sense of self and authenticity.

Fulfillment Stories 13m18s

  • Identify 3-5 fulfillment stories from your life.
  • These stories should involve actions you took, where you did well by your own standards, and which brought you a sense of fulfillment.
  • Analyzing these stories can give you insights into what you truly want.

Energy Audit 15m57s

  • Look back on your calendar or activities from the past 2 weeks.
  • Identify which activities gave you energy (mark with a plus) and which drained your energy (mark with a minus).
  • This energy audit helps you understand what kind of work and activities align with your interests and values.
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You can start by looking at where you are right now, what is working and not working, and what activities give you energy. The video also recommends reflecting on fulfillment stories from your life and noticing patterns in what felt meaningful. Those patterns can point to what you actually want.

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